Episode 4 · Phases

What Parents Get Wrong About Raising Resilient Kids

41 min
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Praise effort, not talent. Research shows how you talk to your kids about failure shapes their entire mindset. Dr. Courtney breaks down 25+ years of Carol Dweck's research and what parents can actually do differently — from preschool through high school.

In this episode:

What growth vs. fixed mindset really means (and what it doesn't) The 1998 study that changed how we think about praise Why your view of failure matters more than your view of intelligence How fixed mindset shows up at every age Practical scripts and reframes you can use tonight Special considerations for neurodivergent kids

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